Here is what a typical pandemic morning looks like.
My husband and I get up early. He makes pancakes and lattes, and sets the table. I supervise. The moment breakfast ends, he gets to work. He opens his computer on the dining room table, arranges a pile of binders and a row of pens beside him, and starts writing. It is 7:30 a.m.
I go to my home office to stare at screens. This keeps me entertained till about 7:35 a.m., at which point I wonder: “How is my sister doing today?” So I call her. That kills about ten minutes.
I return to my screen-staring and construct a few clunky sentences. Then I delete most of them. This takes a lot of energy. By 8:00 a.m. I’m famished. I slink past my husband, hunched over his laptop at the dining room table, hoping he doesn’t notice me heading to the kitchen. He doesn’t.
I head back to my office. For the next couple of hours I act like a yo-yo, alternating between staring at screens and procrastinating (re-arranging books on my tall bookshelf, re-arranging my office supply closet, re-arranging the chachkas on the shorter bookshelf). At 10:30 a.m., I head to the kitchen again, this time asking my husband: “What’s for lunch?”
“It’s only 10:30,” he says.
“I know,” I say, “but I’m hungry.”
He tells me to get back to work. I stay out of his hair till about 11:50 (a respectable time for lunch).
“Did you have a productive morning? I ask.
He tells me he has written 6,000 words. (I have written about six.)
“Piss off,” I say.
Ok, so I do have a few things to show for the past year.
- French. Thanks to one-on-one remote classes twice a week with a patient instructor who lives in France, I am becoming bilingual. I watch most everything in French now, even stuff I should watch in the original English. My sister rightly pointed out that watching the Fran Lebowitz doc in French is silly given you miss her iconic NYC accent.
- Baking. I have creamed more pounds of butter and sugar this year than I can count but I’m still a hopeless baker. My husband can’t understand because I’m a darn good cook. The other day I made a lemon meringue pie but reached for flour when I should have reached for sugar so had to start over (there went a dozen eggs).
- Grey. I wasn’t planning to stop dying my hair but the pandemic made the decision for me after my salon closed. My son’s girlfriend said it was badass which made me love her even more. There is something very empowering about owning my age. Badass, for sure. (Also pretty hot, if I say so myself).
- Running. I used to hate running. Seriously hated it. But my sister and I started running virtually this winter (she lives in Toronto) and I’m starting to love it. I wrote a little story: “Pandemic Running with My Sister” for Next Avenue. Even if you don’t read the story, check out our photos with our matching pink toques (sorry, you can’t see my grey hair…).
Not that I’m not loving my pandemic mornings, but it is seriously time for this madness to end.
How are your mornings?
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Jessica
Mar 28, 2021 -
Love this! Here’s another great advantage of grey hair: you can dye it fun colors without bleaching first. I like purple on top, fading to dark blue on the sides.
Sue Nador
Mar 28, 2021 -
Jessica, you are WAY hipper than me! That does sound like fun…I can totally see you rocking those colours!!!
eden baylee
Mar 28, 2021 -
Hahaha Sue, this is such a great post! You crack me up, in the best possible way! It’s a grey day here in Toronto and I truly needed a lift. Thank you for this. 🤣
I’m a good cook and hopeless baker too. I think baking is too much of a science for me. I absolutely hate following recipes and use them only as guidelines, so … that doesn’t work for baking!
As for grey hair, oh yeah, I’m grateful for a collection of tuques. It’s Canadian, after all! You looked great in your pink tuque!
So amazed at your running prowess, you go go go!
French! Yes! Are you using a private teacher? I wanted to brush up on my French too. Do you recommend your person?
Sending BIG hugs. xox
eden
Sue Nador
Mar 28, 2021 -
Exactly! Who likes to follow rules? Flour, sugar…it’s all the same to me! Love my French teacher…will DM you with more details! Sending BIG HUGS back for a great week, Eden xox
Winsom Winsom
Mar 28, 2021 -
Love your post Sue…I was laughing so hard at you sneaking past your husband. You know that he saw you but decided to ignore until you asked about lunch… Long ago I realized how focus your hubby is,. You really sound like a naughty kid and I love it. Dynamics in my house is about the same..Marlene is so focus on her music and learning Mandarin, while it takes me hours to focus , but once I do , no lunch dinner or supper and I am the cook of this house..Late in the evening I hear a small voice saying ,don’t worry about dinner , I will make some toast…I wasn’t worrying of course.. Anyways Sue , I think you are selling your self short , I think you are getting work done , being creative is not instant stuff…we got to play first.. Love your stoties. .Blessings.
Sue Nador
Apr 1, 2021 -
Oh, thank you Winsom! Your kind feedback means so much to me. Maybe I am a little like you then. It takes a long time to get to that creative place but once I’m on a roll, I’m on a roll! I am so excited about your project, and can’t wait to see it. We will play together once you arrive home to Canada! xo
Rocca Morra Hodge
Mar 29, 2021 -
Sue, loved this story. My mornings are fairly structured, but I have to say there are more and more moments of sheer un-productivity. With respect to grey hair, I got some coaching from one of my bookclub chicks on this beautiful organic hair colour product from Italy that I got at The Carrot and did it myself. It was frightening the first time I did it, but the results were not half bad. Then one day I decided to cut my own hair. Leaving my short pixie cut unchecked for 4 months resulted in my crazy frizzy curly hair making me look like Bozo the clown. I had to put the scissors down when I realized I was trying to equalize each side, and kept getting shorter and shorter. Not to mention I couldn’t see the back of my head, so that ended up with a big chunk cut out on an angle. IT was not pretty, but I am proud that I now have a new skill I can keep practicing if I ever have to live in the wild by myself!
Sue Nador
Mar 30, 2021 -
Rocca! It’s amazing how we are discovering skills we didn’t think we had. I have never dyed my own hair, and I will have nightmares now even thinking about the mess I would make. Honestly, I’ve known you a long time and I’ve never seen you look anything other than gorgeous. I suspect most women (including me) would trade our current looks for your Bozo the Clown look! I hope you & your family are all well xo