{"id":1453,"date":"2016-05-19T11:06:01","date_gmt":"2016-05-19T11:06:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/therelationshipdeal.com\/?p=1453"},"modified":"2016-05-19T11:06:01","modified_gmt":"2016-05-19T11:06:01","slug":"your-first-vacation-as-a-couple-3-ways-to-get-along","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/therelationshipdeal.com\/wp\/2016\/05\/19\/your-first-vacation-as-a-couple-3-ways-to-get-along\/","title":{"rendered":"Your First Vacation As A Couple? 3 Ways To Get Along!"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Are you planning your first vacation as a couple? YAY, what a great step in your relationship. There is no better way to really get to know someone than spending concentrated time together, outside of your natural habitat.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, for too many couples, their vacation together is not all fun. For instance, a study by Club Med<\/a> found that over half of couples fight about what to do on their holiday.<\/p>\n

Fight, on holidays? I\u2019m not surprised. I remember an early vacation with my husband-to-be. As we walked the streets of New York City (a big city for two small-town Ontario people), I wanted to wander. It\u2019s what I always did as a single person. Sure, I got into trouble from time to time, but I always met colourful characters and found hidden gems.<\/p>\n

Wandering, looking for adventure, was not my boyfriend\u2019s idea of a good time. He didn\u2019t even cross the street unless the light was green, never mind if there wasn\u2019t even a car in sight. Wander? Never!<\/p>\n

We were like the Pushmi-pullyu (pronounced \u201cpush me-pull you\u201d) character from the Doctor Dolittle children\u2019s story\u2014two heads on opposite ends of a body. I wanted to go one way; my boyfriend wanted to go another. We were stuck.<\/p>\n

My husband and I eventually worked out our different vacation styles. Here\u2019s how we do it.<\/p>\n

Plan as a team.<\/strong> We research places before we go. This way we plan to see places and do things that interest both of us, and also some things together that only appeals to one of us. When we went to Newfoundland years ago, I hiked more than I would have on my own. And my husband agreed to a major detour to visit an island off the coast that I badly wanted to visit. While we both did stuff that wasn\u2019t on our \u201cA\u201d list of activities, we did enough that was\u2014so neither of us felt disappointed or resentful.<\/p>\n

Get out of our comfort zones.<\/strong> According to the Club Med survey, men are more likely to get annoyed that their partners just want to chill, and women are more likely to resent feeling pressured to do activities when they prefer to relax. It\u2019s important to be a good sport on vacation together. Vacations are more memorable when we stretch beyond our comfort zone\u2014plus, it makes for better photo ops! Say \u201cyes\u201d to new experiences\u2014don\u2019t be a stick in the mud!<\/p>\n

Spend time apart.<\/strong> In our normal day-to-day lives back home, we each have our own work so we spend most of the day apart. On vacation, our time is concentrated so there is a greater chance we\u2019ll butt heads in some way. We both recognize that we need our own space every day. My husband will go for long runs, while I explore little boutiques, which gives me time to chat with locals (something I love and he doesn\u2019t so much). It\u2019s fun to swap stories when we come back together more refreshed.<\/p>\n

Being a couple requires compromise. Compromising on your vacation is just one more thing in that long list of compromises! Taking separate vacations is always an option of course, but creating shared memories together is a far better way to go.<\/p>\n

Photo credit: Flickr\/David Zellaby-Hay Hat<\/a><\/p>\n

Originally published in eHarmony Canada<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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