Archive for Faithfulness

How Dora’s Affair Started

How Dora’s Affair Started

I am going to see Every Other Couple at the Hot Docs Festival today. This documentary from Finland profiles couples who vowed to be together forever but are now picking up the pieces after their divorce. A number of years ago, I interviewed Dora (not her…

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The Ashley Madison Fiasco

The Ashley Madison Fiasco

By now you are either freaking out or feeling relieved. Last week’s big-ticket news item was that Ashley Madison (the on-line adultery service) got hacked. The hackers now have the personal information including sexual preferences of Ashley Madison’s 37 million members. If you are a…

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Double Your Pleasure, Double Your Fun

Double Your Pleasure, Double Your Fun

I was having a conversation with a polyamorist last week. She is a young mother with a husband and a lover. Her husband has other lovers of his own. People in open relationships have always fascinated me. Who are these other worldly creatures who would…

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My Husband’s Shack-Up

My Husband’s Shack-Up

It was 6 am. I baked raspberry chocolate muffins for my husband, and sent him on his way. My hubby and his highly accomplished female colleague were driving to a small city several hours away to conduct a murder trial that was scheduled to last…

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When Perception is Reality

When Perception is Reality

I was cleaning my attic last Sunday and came across my textbook from first year Psychology. I flipped it open to the chapter on perception, which included the famous old woman/young woman figure-ground illusion. When my psych prof first projected this picture in the lecture…

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My Husband’s Affair with ScarJo

My Husband’s Affair with ScarJo

I was sitting in the fabulous garden of the Union Street Inn enjoying the last few minutes of our visit to San Francisco before heading to the airport, and back home to Toronto. My husband John walks in with a big smile on his face,…

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Am I A Jellyfish? Thoughts on Monogamy

Am I A Jellyfish? Thoughts on Monogamy

I have always had disdain for people who blindly follow the crowd. You know the ones I am talking about—those who sublimate their own desires to conform to societal expectations. They could be your friend the bank employee who would rather be a yoga instructor,…

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Truth or consequences – what are the ethics of an affair?

Truth or consequences – what are the ethics of an affair?

People all across the nation are pledging to be faithful to the one they love. Over 90 per cent of people in a Pew Research survey said ‘faithfulness’ is ‘very important’ for a successful marriage. Curious then that statistics tell a different story. “Cheating” is…

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What’s the relationship deal for political wives?

What’s the relationship deal for political wives?

I’m a far cry from being a political junkie. I’d get skewered in any debate about foreign policy, health reform or immigration. But I seem to have been blessed with an idiot savant memory for the personal details of politicians. Like, I can recite the…

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Burning in the hell of monogamy

Burning in the hell of monogamy

Back in the day, you were doing pretty darn well to make it to the age of 25 what with the risk of being mauled by a saber-tooth tiger, bludgeoned to death in a gladiator fight or  having a close encounter with the Black Death….

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