Archive for Conflict

Your First Fight? Four Right And Wrong Ways To Handle It

Your First Fight? Four Right And Wrong Ways To Handle It

Have you heard the term “new relationship energy”? It’s that “high” you feel at the beginning of a romantic union…it’s almost like your partner has been sprinkled with pixie dust and everything they do or say feels magical to you. This “high” is caused by…

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No Refuge for Refugees

No Refuge for Refugees

On an early morning walk with Jessie last week, I ran into a friend. We both stopped to catch up for a few minutes as she was dashing to work, and I was heading home to my writing haven. Coincidentally, we had both visited Greece…

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Don’t Mention Her Mother And Other Rules for Fighting Fair

Don’t Mention Her Mother And Other Rules for Fighting Fair

Arguments are a good thing. So how do you make the most of them? I recently read a study that found that more than 40% of couples believe that fighting helps keep the lines of communication open. Tackling problems head on can be better for…

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Are Alpha Males Really The Top Dog?

Are Alpha Males Really The Top Dog?

I have a large extended family and we get along famously—for the most part. Unfortunately there are two male members who can’t stand each other. It is so bad that they have had to be physically restrained on more than one occasion. Left to their…

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Love? Not a bad start.

Love? Not a bad start.

Relationships have existed since God made little green apples. But this concept of marrying “for love” is a relatively modern one in our Western civilization. Now, we marry for love and have high expectations that this love will last. I am at the age and…

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The Achilles Heel Of My Relationship

The Achilles Heel Of My Relationship

Here is how the conversation started. My husband John and I were in San Francisco at the Hertz rent-a-car. We were waiting to pick up a Camaro convertible for our drive to Big Sur. The trip was a splurge for our 25th wedding anniversary although…

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Do stay-at-home dads have a jobette?

Do stay-at-home dads have a jobette?

Here’s an interesting factoid. Stay-at-home dads are five times more likely to have an affair than other men. One hypothesis is, feeling emasculated by not being the primary breadwinner, they sleep around to prove they are still macho. Interesting theory, but I’d like to propose…

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One coin, two sides

One coin, two sides

Stick with someone long enough and chances are one of their personal traits or habits will start to drive you crazy. Whether it is the way they chew their food, laugh in a hee-haw fashion, or leave the lights on when they exit a room,…

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Why I stopped talking in code and learned to love my birthday

Why I stopped talking in code and learned to love my birthday

I have always hated my birthday. Even as a kid in primary school, I never liked the annual marker of another year gone without enough to show for it. I hate getting older, it freaks me out. I’ve always been a dark person anyways, and…

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